Me at the wedding

Look at at that, as soon as NaBloPoMo ends, I go M.I.A. for over a week!

Well, I was in a wedding last weekend as the matron of honor. I was so nervous about it, but everything went off beautifully and the couple was very happy in the end. Here is the speech I nearly had an aneurysm writing. I also started crying mid way through it!

Good Evening everyone, my name is Erin and I am proud to be the matron of honor. Bride and Groom*, congratulations on your marriage. I know you two will be really happy together.
Groom and I have known each other since high school, and I first met Bride when she started dating him in college. I liked her right away because I saw how happy my friend was when he was with her, and then I could see why he was so happy. Groom, I don’t have to tell you what a sweet, caring, thoughtful person Bride is and I can’t begin to thank you enough for bringing someone like her into my life. Bride is the kind of person whose “effect […] on those around her [is] incalculably diffusive: for the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been, is half owing to the number who lived faithfully a hidden life” like Bride (Middlemarch).
And actually, our meeting was pre-destined. Bride and I lived a block away from each other when we were in elementary school and we went to the same middle school, but never knew each other. In fact, when we were in middle school we both took a quiz sponsored by our student council that was supposed to tell us who our friend matches were. For some reason I kept mine and came across it a couple years ago, and guess who my number one friend match was? Some girl named Bride. So, see? I did learn something in middle school.
At this point it’s usually customary to offer up some quote or a tidbit of advice about love and married life. Unfortunately, having been married for two years now I know that there’s nothing new I can tell you that you haven’t heard already. Being married is hard work. And there will probably be days when you are so annoyed by your spouse, you may wonder what in the hell you were thinking getting yourself into this whole marriage gig to begin with. Ephesians says to “Patiently put up with each other and love each other.” (Eph 4:2) Because then you’ll remember the time he tried to make you soup when you were sick, or how you told jokes in the dark before sleeping and laughed until your sides hurt, and it’s all worth it.
“Rejoice in the wife of your youth […] may you always be captivated by her love.” Prov 5:18-19
As your relationship began among books, it is fitting that it continues in “Marriage, which has been the bourne of so many narratives, [and] is still a great beginning, as it was to Adam and Eve,” (Middlemarch).
Here is to the beginning of the next chapter of your narrative. Cheers, to Bride and Groom.

*Named changed to protect the innocent!

Next week I am flying to Knoxville, TN to attend another wedding. Fortunately, this time I am not in it, just a guest!

Favorite Quotes

I am going to be in a wedding next weekend and I am trying to write my matron of honor speech. It’s not really going well 🙁 So in the meantime, here are some of my favorite quotes:

“Be not far from me, for trouble is near: there is none to help.” — Psalm 22:11

“We mortals, men and women, devour many a disappointment between breakfast and dinner-time; keep back the tears and look a little pale about the lips, and in answer to inquiries say, ‘Oh, nothing!’ Pride helps us; and pride is not a bad thing when it only urges us to hide our own hurts — not to hurt others.” — George Eliot, Middlemarch

“But the effect of her being on those around her was incalculably diffusive: for the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been, is half owing to the number who lived faithfully a hidden life, and rest in unvisited tombs.” — George Eliot, Middlemarch

“Many Theresas have been born who found for themselves no epic life wherein there was a constant unfolding of far-resonant action […] they tried to shape their thought and deed in noble agreement; but after all, to common eyes their struggles seemed mere inconsistency and formlessness; for these later-born Theresas were helped by no coherent social faith and order which could perform the function of knowledge for the ardently willing soul.” — George Eliot, Middlemarch

“It is not violence that best overcomes hate—nor vengeance that most certainly heals injury.” — Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“‘Would you not be happier if you tried to forget her severity, together with the passionate emotions it excited? Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity, or registering wrongs.'” — Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“Catherine Earnshaw, may you not rest as long as I am living! You said I killed you — haunt me, then! The murdered do haunt their murderers. I believe — I know that ghosts have wandered on earth. Be with me always — take any form — drive me mad! only do not leave me in this abyss, where I cannot find you! Oh, God! it is unutterable! I cannot live without my life! I cannot live without my soul!” — Emily Brontë, Wuthering Heights

How to deal with Rejection

Psalm 42:11

“Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my help and my God.”

Isaiah 49:1-4

“Listen to me, O coastlands, pay attention, you peoples far away! The LORD called me before I was born, while I was in my mother’s womb he named me. He made my mouth like a sharp sword, in the shadow of his hand he hid me; he made me a polished arrow, in his quiver he hid me away. And he said to me, ‘You are my servant, Israel, in whom I will be glorified.’ But I said, ‘I have labored in vain, I have spent my strength for nothing and vanity; yet surely my cause is with the LORD, and my reward is with God.'”

And of course, the entire book of Job.

Psalm 37:3-5

“Trust in the LORD, and do good; so you will live in the land, and enjoy security. Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act.”

Tobit is helpful.

Luke 6:22-23

“‘Blessed are you when people hate you, and when they exclude you, revile you, and defame you on the account of the Son of Man. Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, for surely your reward is great in heaven; for that is what their ancestors did to the prophets.'”

Witty Quotes!

I added my favorite quotes from Legally Blonde to the witty quotes on the sidebar, so keep an eye out, you may see them. I had to transcribe pretty much the entire movie for a paper I wanted to write on the Language of Legally Blonde, so I thought I would share the file. It has the approximate time at which the quote occurs in the movie (h:mm:ss) and the accurate quote. Download it here.

New theme, more quotes, more albums

Wow, I’ve been a busy little beaver! Actually I’ve been working on a lot of this for a while. I added more quotes to the witty quotes generator. If you have some, you should leave it in a comment, or email me. And I added a new theme, it’s a bit darker and stuff than usual. Ironic since spring is coming on. 😎 Lastly, I revamped the currently listening to page, added a bunch of new albums and stuff. 🙂 That’s about it… enjoy. 😀

The best email forward I have ever gotten.

I got this forward from Kathy, {Vanessa}’s mom. Enjoy…

Apples and Wine

Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the
tree. Most men don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are
afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just take the rotten
apples from the grounds that aren’t as good, but easy. The apples at
the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they’re
amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the
one who’s brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.
Share this with other women who are good apples, even those who have
already been picked!

Now Men…. Men are like a fine wine. They begin as grapes, and it’s
up to women to stomp the shit out of them until they turn into
something acceptable to have dinner with.

supafly.com [Pixels of Mass Seduction]

This is the guy from The Real World 9! Matt! He’s Catholic and he does a lot of good stuff. I really liked him because, unlike any other person I’ve seen on The Real World, he actually obeyed and followed his morals. Which made him a “boring” character. As you will notice if you ever watch RW9 [New Orleans], you hardly ever see him. So, props to him.supafly.com [Pixels of Mass Seduction]

By the way, I really like this quote he has on there from Pope John Paul II:
“It is Jesus that you seek when you dream of happiness; he is waiting for you when nothing else you find satisfies you; he is the beauty to which you are so attracted; it is he who provokes you with that thirst for fullness that will not let you settle for compromise; it is he who urges you to shed the masks of a false life; it is he who reads in your hearts your most genuine choices, the choices that others try to stifle. It is Jesus who stirs in you the desire to do something great with your lives, the will to follow an ideal, the refusal to allow yourselves to be grounded down by mediocrity, the courage to commit yourselves humbly and patiently to improving yourselves and society, making the world more human and more fraternal.”
-Pope John Paul II

This is cool too: Astraldream Web-Kit

Let’s hear it for the BlogThis! feature.

A funny story and quotes.

A young Taiwanese man wrote more than 700 letters to his girlfriend, urging her to marry him. She did marry — the mail carrier. [From my psych book].

‘Love is a dirty trick played on us to achieve the continuation of the species.’
W. Somerset Maugham